Breakups are never easy. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, the stages of grieving is inevitable. It’s painful and soul crushing. The higher the relationship, the harder it’ll fall. Grieving time can be different for everyone, but you’ll definitely go through these five basic steps, one way or another. And no matter how painful it is, we still listen to songs that will make us feel every bit of our heartbreak.
Don’t fret; the three-member, dream pop band, The XX has got all stages covered for you. They have this techno indie beat that’s paired with lethargic vocals that’s perfect for your late night alone time. So get your tub of ice cream, your speakers, and tons of tissue ready and blast all these tunes on repeat.
Looking For Answers
You’re confused. You know that you’re relationship was already leading up to this, but you still don’t understand why. You’re desperate to know the answers and you fixate yourself to the things your ex said or the things you might have done.
LYRICS TO WEEP TO: “When you could leave us alone, why would you just leave us alone, when we have been close, close.”
The breakup hasn’t fully sunk in yet. It feels like your world revolved around the relationship. You cannot accept it’s over. No matter how “clean” the break up was, there would always be some level of disbelief.
LYRIC TO WEEP TO: “We bide our time, though the time is fine, oh to be there, I could be there, Say you’ll be there”
You’ll feel useless. You’ll feel like it’s your fault and no one will love you again. You’ll begin to feel so much sadness that just going about your day will feel exhausting.
LYRIC TO WEEP TO: “Now I go out, but every beat is a violent noise.”
Anger will set in. And more often than not, it will be directed to your ex. You’ll start to hate everything that they had done and is currently doing. Hell, you’ll even hate the way they breathe. But the good news is — anger is meant to empower you. It will make you remember who you are and that you deserve better.
LYRIC TO WEEP TO: “It never came to an ending, I can’t bear to see you”
This might take a while. You might focus on other things like your career or your hobbies, but you’ll soon realize that your feeling of grief is now redirected to hope. You’ve accepted that your ex is really gone and you are actually better without them.
LYRIC TO WEEP TO:“And the end comes too soon, like dreaming of angels and leaving without them”
Written by King Jon
Art by Merrill Chan
The XX are coming to the Philippines this February 7, 2018 in the World Trade Center Manila. Tickets are available at thexx.info/tour.
TOUR DATES FOR I SEE YOU ASIA TOUR
Tue 23 Jan – JIEXPO – Jiexpo Kemayoran, Hall B3 – Jakarta, Indonesia
Thur 25 Jan – MITEC – Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Thur 01 Feb – AsiaWorld-expo (halls 5 & 7) – Hong Kong, China
Mon 05 Feb – NTU Sports Arena – Taipei National Taiwan University Sports Center 台大綜合體育館 – Taipei, Taiwan
Wed 07 Feb – WTC Manila – World Trade Center Manila – Manila, Philippines
Fri 09 Feb – Zepp Bayside – Osaka, Japan
Sun 11 Feb – Makuhari Messe Event Hall – Makuhari Event Hall – Tokyo, Japan